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Online dating can be quite an experience.  If you’re ready to give it a try, the first thing you should do is to find a dating site which can cater to your needs best.  The Internet is overflowing with online dating services ready to give your love life its much needed boost.  You’ll find unlimited dating site choices!  They say that before you find The One, you would have to go through The One Hundred Near Misses.  Unlike going to a singles bar, online dating gives you more efficient means of singling out a potential partner for a long-term relationship. The key to online dating success and finding the right person starts with choosing the right site for you.  Here’s how:

Dating site choices with “you” in mind

Mostly,  there are “singles only” sites , but recently, there are dating  services specializing in matchmaking the widowed and the divorced.  In addition, web dating sites may also be classified according to interests as well as religious and sexual orientations.  From time to time, you’ll come across dating sites for gays and lesbians, for singles interested in interracial marriage, and even for pure vegans, as well as those for lovelorn Christians and Jewish!  All of these come with your personal preferences in mind, so that you’ll have the best dating experience that you deserve.  Choose the one that best serves your needs.

Finding a dating site that’s right for you

Come up with your own list of factors to consider, such as budget, features, and safety.  There are plenty of free dating sites, but the danger is that you don’t really know who’s out there.  That’s like an open bar for con artists and perverts—after all, what do they have to lose?  Paid dating sites usually give potential subscribers a free test drive, so check them out and see if the experience is worth the money you can shell out each month.  Read the safety and privacy policies .  Does the dating service validate the  information written in the profiles?  Who gets to see your full profile?  If you feel safe about the answers to these, then it could be your fairy godmother that’ll help you have your “happily ever after.”

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It’s all too familiar now.  Your well-meaning friends talk you into joining them for dinner and voila! A single guy they know from work happens to walk into the restaurant, alone, and your friends say, “You wouldn’t mind if he joined our table, would you?” Of course, your friends would then have “emergencies” before the first course is even served.  You should know that you have sweet, lovely friends.  It’s just that with blind dates, you’re more likely to have misses than be Mrs.

Dishing out on blind dating

If you’ve been single for long, your “condition” is likely to concern some family members and friends—especially the married ones.  They make it their personal mission to lead love right to your doorstep, and if you take too long, they’d be banging on the door.  Their thoughts on blind dating would be that they know enough about you and your would-be date to play matchmakers.  Unfortunately, no matter how noble their motives are, it’s your heart and your idea of what makes a relationship work that matter.  For instance, your family or friends may think that you’d like their vet, because he’s cute and volunteers at a shelter like you do at soup kitchens.  What they don’t know is that you want someone who’ll see you as an independent woman who doesn’t need doting on like a lovesick puppy.

The difference between blind dating and online dating

Online dating is your call.  You get to choose which guy you’d want to go out with before you actually meet him.  Perhaps, the major difference between blind dating and online dating is that with the latter, you know enough about your online date to make you want to go on a real date with him.  Also, dating someone online means that you’re already considering him as a candidate for a potential long-term relationship, and it’s not just that other people think you should get to know him.

Unless you’re lazy and indecisive—or just plain lucky, blind dating might work for you.  Just keep in mind that a checklist of similarities and a set of mutual friends aren’t enough to make a relationship work.

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Online dating is an interesting study of contrasts.  It gives shy types some leverage and equal opportunity with more self-assured guys.  At the same time, it can leave men clueless about online flirting since all we can count on is personality and knowing what words to say.  After all, online dating has higher communication requirements than a regular relationship does—no  to mention that communication is among the least of our proficiencies, second only to commitment.  What’s a nice guy who’s just looking for his dream girl to do? Make these online dating techniques work for you.

Online dating techniques for dummies

First, you have to understand that women have a certain idea about the right online dating flirting stages.  Typically, your e-love connection should follow this progression: messaging or e-mail, live chat, phone calls and text messaging, then a face-to-face date.  If you rush in to meet right after the first few messages, she’ll most likely think it’s just a booty call for you.  At the same time, taking too long to move on the next stage makes you appear too casual or worse, she’d think that you’re a cheat.

Online dating flirting tips that work

Relax.  Worrying too much about pleasing her and getting a second helping will keep you from being upbeat and engaging.  Online flirting should be fun! Women like witty and funny guys, but hold your green jokes in check until you’re really close that she’ll probably have decided you’re not a pervert.

Be confident but don’t be cocky.  Give sincere compliments and thank her whenever you receive one.  No matter what you do, don’t go to the extremes.  Being condescending or self-pitying are the biggest turnoffs especially to women.  Be a good listener, and it’ll work well for both of you.

Don’t lie.  Effective virtual flirts don’t cook up stories, because they don’t want to create a false image that they can’t live up to.  A little white lie can ruin it for you, since women believe that someone who can get away with a little fib will get away with anything.

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When online dating first became a hit, it sure didn’t take long before a swarm of cheats, “dirty old men,” and psychos flocked to Internet dating sites.  Thanks to them, online dating got a bad rep.  It didn’t help that some matchmaking sites sparked controversies by featuring mail-order-brides.  Not only did online dating become a turnoff among women, but some guys also had to lay low on looking for love on the Internet for a while.

The good news is that online dating has recently experienced a revival courtesy.  With people growing lonely, online dating is at its peak again by reinventing itself into social networks.  For those who still have their jobs, there’s online speed dating.  Now, the Internet dating population is more diverse, so it’s not true that the nice guys don’t try dating online.  Even if it doesn’t lead to a romantic relationship, online dating can give your social life a much-needed boost.

Guys dating online don’t get so worn out trying to find Ms. Right.

The dating scene can drain you of energy and money, not to mention the time you have to spend waiting for your date whose personal mission is to be fashionably late.  Online dating helps streamline your search for your dream girl by making profiles viewable for just a few bucks, and sometimes even for free.  As we do much of our transactions over the Internet, how difficult would it be to give online dating a try?

The nice guys don’t always finish last.

One thing that’s great about online dating is that good men who are sometimes too shy to approach women face-to-face get to feel more comfortable doing so over the Internet.  If this sounds like you, all you have to do is sign up for membership to the most popular dating sites.  Whip up a winning (and real) profile, and post your latest photo.  Be patient and responsive.  You might be surprised how much fun it is. Even if you don’t find Ms. Right immediately, you could bump into people with whom you can build lasting friendships.

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The boys say it’s easier to meet girls online.  You have their instructions down from joining the most popular Internet dating sites to whipping up a winning profile.  You’ve even attached a soft focus photo of yourself to go with it.  With the online dating population at a 60-40 ratio of women to men, you’re just about ready to have the time of your life.  The only thing you have to figure out is how to find the right girl.  From the throng of women, how do you tell which one is Ms. Right?  After all, it’s quality and not quantity that truly matters.  You can get lost trying to find the right girl, especially since you can’t be too sure if your online date is who she says she is in her profile.

Online dating icebreakers that double as background check

Getting the right answers comes from asking the right questions.  Ask her what she thinks about online dating for starters. Be on the lookout for answers that come out as cynical, then follow through with, “Men couldn’t be that bad, what makes you think that way?”  If you listen intently, she might share a bad experience with a former online date or an ex.  It will get the ball rolling.  You can then ask her opinion about the common blunders that men make both online and offline. That should tell you something about the kind of guys she likes.

As you warm up to each other, you can get more personal without being intrusive.  Remember that it’s not what you say, but how you say it.  Pop the question as if it just passed your mind, like “This sure is fun.  How long have you been doing this (dating online)?”  Ask her how different her online dating experience is from her past relationships, after which you may ask what made her call it quits with her ex.  If you do, watch out if she rattles on about how much pain he’s caused her.  It’s either she’s not over him yet or she’s got a negative outlook on guys.  Whatever it is, it can’t be good for you.

Online dating conversation as a two-way street

Don’t get too caught up in asking the right questions that she might feel like she’s talking to the Feds.  Show the real you, so she’d open up some more.

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If there’s one thing that you could thank the recession for, it’s boosting online dating with significant rise in memberships to dating sites.  Whether or not you’re one of those men who resort to dating online out of boredom, loneliness, or simply testing the waters, you’d be happy to learn that most match-making sites have a 60-40 female to male ratio.  So, hold your horses, knights!  The statistics won’t do you any good if you don’t know what women want online.  Although most people say that it’s way easier to hook up through the Internet than face-to-face, it doesn’t mean that you won’t need these online dating tips for guys.

What women want online and offline are sincere compliments, not flattery.

If all you’ve seen so far is her profile photo, compliment her on what highlights her features best.  Steer clear of cheesy lines that not only sound fake but would also make your date want to bolt.  True, women love detail-oriented and funny guys, but never say how much her teeth would match her beige bedroom walls perfectly.

Pace yourself accordingly.

If you’re just starting to get to know each other, keep conversations light and witty.  Although some online dating tips for men would advise that women like men who are in touch with their emotions, that’s not applicable at the beginning of an online relationship.  There’s nothing more alarming to a woman than a man who’s too emotionally charged.  Aside from appearing too good to be true, you could be tagged as desperate and obsessive.  You wouldn’t want to be tagged anything other than “could be The One,” especially since women do spill the gory details to anyone who cares to ask.  In the event that it doesn’t work between you and your prospect, you wouldn’t have to move to another dating site.

The online dating tips for guys, which actually work, can be summarized in one word.

As Aretha Franklin would tell you, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me!”  You don’t have to work too hard to impress women.  Don’t lie, use cuss words, or be too critical of other people, and your online relationship will go a long way.

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Being new to online dating may make you feel a little awkward at first. After all, an online relationship has the whole dating process backwards.  While those in regular relationships usually start out as acquaintances that may have bumped into each other once or twice before learning that they actually have more things in common (than just their circle of friends), online daters are total strangers who sometimes live at opposite poles.  Having good online dating chemistry even enables people to learn about each other’s most embarrassing moments long before they get to see what they look like.  With the growing interest in online dating, sharing pictures and exchanging greeting cards became popular date activities.

Sharing online photos is among the most popular date activities.

There are several ways to close the distance between you and your date.  One way is to share digital pictures through e-mail and image-hosting websites.  You may even share photos while you chat; chat servers usually support live file sharing.  Send photos from your travels and of yourself enjoying your favorite activities.  Allowing your date to see the side of you that he or she doesn’t get to see on webcam will help strengthen your bond.  When you decide to meet up later on, you can take pictures and create a scrapbook to commemorate your first real date.  Find sites that allow you to create slideshows and electronic scrapbooks for free.  If you’re still in the early stages of the online relationship though, don’t go overboard with the photo-sharing.  To protect yourself from risks, refrain from sending family photos or those with address-specific backgrounds.

Sending greeting cards improves online dating chemistry.

You don’t need a special occasion to send greeting cards. Online relationships practically run on communication, which is why it’s important to make your presence felt.  Surf the web for e-card sites.  You can even find e-cards that you may customize and send free of charge.  Choose from a variety of cards organized by holidays.  There are also all-occasion cards categorized into “funny, “inspirational,” and so on.  E-cards usually come with music and are animated.  Some sites have interactive e-cards where you can replace the character’s head with your date’s photo to personalize them.  Just don’t overdo it, unless you want to appear obsessed and scare your date away.

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Online dating used to be just for fun, until you come across someone whom you think could be “the one.” What happens next? Being in an online dating relationship does not exempt you from the ups and downs that those in regular relationships go through. As in any other relationship, it takes a significant amount of time and effort to nurture online datingrelationships. In fact, the circumstances surrounding an online relationship make it even necessary for you to work twice as hard as other couples do. Let the following tips for online dating help you achieve a successful relationship.

1. Reality check

Before making that emotional investment, try to evaluate the status of your online dating relationship. There’s no point going through the rest of the steps unless you’re sure that this is the relationship you want to nurture and bring to another level. Does he or she pull a disappearing act online for unexplained periods of time? People with multiple online relationships usually do this, and you probably don’t want to be in too deep with someone like that.

2. Proper timing

Time is a key factor in successful online relationships. Spend too much time online, and you’d come across as lazy or obsessive. Spend too little time, and you’d appear inconsistent and uninterested. Set a regular schedule for your virtual date and make sure you stick to it. If something really important comes up, make sure you tell him or her that you can’t make it. No one likes to be stood up–especially someone who’s sitting down in front of a computer. In addition, a successful online relationship needs to have the right pace. Don’t rush him or her to meet up for real until he or she is ready. Don’t wait too long either.

3. A “real” feel

Successful online relationships aren’t restricted to what can be done online. Send him or her a copy of your favorite book, as this would have come up in your previous chats. Don’t send an e-book since online presence is already routine. Go old school and add a handwritten note or highlight insightful lines to give your gift more character.  If you live in different countries and he or she has culinary interests (or if the previous one seems too cheesy for you), send your date a recipe book of your native dishes.

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While online dating can be exciting for singles and may increase your chances of finding a partner, it also makes you more vulnerable to online dating hazards. You are likely to come across more frauds in the Internet than in face-to-face interactions, so make it a point to take necessary precautions to keep online dating safe.

Safeguard your equipment.

Before connecting to the Internet and signing up for dating services, one of the most basic online dating precautions you should take is to shield your computer from viruses that may cause permanent damage to your system. At the same time, block other parties from stealing personal information from you over the Internet. There are freeware, or software that you can download at no cost, available for home computer users. You may use the following to keep your computer risk-free:

Free firewall download: ZoneAlarm (www.zonelabs.com)
Free anti-virus download: AVG Anti-Virus (www.grisoft.com)

Look before you leap.

The best way to make online dating safe is to select your online dating service with great care. From among the online dating sites available, navigate through the pages and see which of these websites you’d like to belong to. Browse through testimonials, photos, and profiles. If you see lewd language and images on the site, it is unlikely to be a dating site that you would want. If you’re comfortable enough to inquire from people who have some online dating experience, they may be able to point you to the right direction.

The Internet is brimming with online dating services. Bookmark them on your computer so you can easily return to them and compare terms and conditions, privacy policies, and subscription rates, although there are several dating sites on the Internet that are free of charge. If you take these online dating precautions seriously, they could save you from a lot of anxiety, regrets, and maybe even heartache.

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