Overcoming First Date Jitters
February 20th, 2010
Dating can be difficult, stressful, and uncomfortable, especially if you are on your first date with someone that you barely know. In order to relax, the first thing that you need to acknowledge is that first date jitters are normal. Many people get nervous on their first or even their second or third date, which is why it is perfectly okay to feel a little nervous and anxious about your upcoming date. If you want to get over your first date jitters so that you can enjoy your time with your date, then all you have to do is follow some of the tips and advice in this article.
Just be yourself
First and foremost, the most important thing for you to remember is to be yourself. When you go on a date, the idea is to give you and your partner an opportunity to get to know one another. You will probably be a little more anxious and uneasy if you are trying to be someone or something that you are not, so just try to be yourself. Then, of course, there is always the old adage: put your best foot forward. Even though you should try to be yourself, it is also a good dating strategy to play toward your strengths and your best qualities, while avoiding potential situations that may bring out your weaknesses. For example, if you know you are personable yet impatient, you may want to skip the long lines at the movies and, instead, book a table for two at a quiet, romantic restaurant where you can carry the date with your conversation and personality.
Relax and have fun
Aside from being yourself, you may have to remind yourself once in a while to relax and have fun while you are on your date. Many times, while on a date, you can get nervous or a tad sensitive about certain situations or occurrences. If this ever happens to you, you may want to excuse yourself to the restroom so you can calm down, relax, and remind yourself that you are on a date and must have a good time. Remember, the worst thing that can happen is that your date doesn’t want to have another date with you in the future, and that is not such a big loss on your part, considering that you can find other people to go on dates with. Just relax, have fun, and be yourself, and you can bet that those first date jitters will go away in no time.
Related questions:
1. What can I expect when I get first date jitters?
2. How should I approach my first date so that I do not get too nervous, anxious, or stressed?
3. If I start getting too nervous on a first date, what should I do?
Dating and Money: Who Gets to Pay the Bill?
November 21st, 2009
One of the most difficult things you might probably encounter when going on a date is having to resolve the issue on who gets to the pay the bill. Some people think that it is customary for a man to pay for the date. However, today’s modern women might disagree with this. They may get offended if a man insists on paying the bill simply because it’s the rule. This would make them feel they’re being patronized too much. Others do take it as some sort of an insult simply because they don’t want to be seen as helpless or someone who can’t afford to pay their own way. However, there are also women who would think it would be ungentlemanly if the man lets them pay the bill. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to split the bill down the middle. Here’s a guide to help you out:
When to insist on paying the bill
You may insist on paying the bill if you are the one who asked someone out. This will not offend your date because it is just normal that the one who asked out will shoulder the expenses. Another instance when you get to pay the bill is when your date is celebrating some occasion, say, a promotion or a birthday celebration. Taking care of the bill for this special occasion would be seen as a gift or taken as a token of congratulations or appreciation.
How to tell your date that you get to pay the bill
If your date insists that he or she would want to split the bill, just tell him or her that for this special occasion, you would be the one to take care of everything. Make your date feel that there’s really a good reason why you’re going to pay for the dinner or the date. In case your date wants to know the cost of your dinner, just tell your date –This one’s on me, honey! You have to make sure that you say it smoothly and with great charm so your date would not misinterpret your actions.
It is important that you know how to approach your date regarding the issue on bills. Knowing how to act to resolve the money issues would give your date a positive impression about you, sparing him or her the embarrassment and any negative impression.
Related questions:
1. How about when it comes to group dating? Who gets to pay the bill?
2. What will you do if your money is short to pay the bill?
3. In a blind date, who gets to pay the bill?
4. For a movie date, who is the one to pay for the tickets?
5. Is it okay to let the woman pay the bill for the third date?
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On who’ll Pay the Bill – On who will pay the bill on a date
Dating Mistakes – About the dating mistakes you should avoid