Singles Online | Web Dating

In both offline and online relationships, it seems so much easier to commit blunders than to get things right.  It’s no wonder that you’ll see more “don’ts” in dating do’s and don’ts that you find over the Internet.  If you want to have a successful online dating experience, avoid errors that lead not only to strained communication, but to heartache as well.  While projecting a certain image may do wonders for you in your career, being someone other than the real “you” is a top dating no-no.

Identifying the three most common mistakes

The first blunder is to mistake confidence for cockiness.  Exuding self-assurance is sexy, but not if you behave like you’re God’s gift to women.  While playing it cool can sometimes make you appear too casual and aloof, it’s an even bigger turnoff to be too aggressive.  Your date might think that you’re a pervert who’s just making a booty call.  Don’t rush her into swapping personal information and meeting up right away.  You don’t want her to think that you’re a psycho or a stalker or both.  Second, setting high expectations is guaranteed to result in disappointment.  Expecting anyone to be perfect will have you ending up with a long list of user IDs with zero success.  Third, lying your way into a relationship just won’t work.  Not only is it impossible for a relationship to run on deceit, women won’t even give you that chance to be in a relationship.  You know what they say, “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.”

How to avoid errors in online dating

Don’t go to the extremes in an attempt to play safe.  Put your best face forward and thank her if she thinks your profile photo is very Josh Hartnett (and make sure it’s not Josh Hartnett’s!), but don’t make her feel as if she just won the online dating lottery.  Don’t host a pity party either, saying that you can’t get being the high school fatso out of your skin.  Appreciate your date’s good side, but acknowledge her weaknesses.  Just set deal breakers like when she lies to you or starts asking for money.  Don’t lie either.  You want her to fall for you—not the image you made her believe.

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