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Any kind of relationship should not and cannot run on deceit.  The reason singles flock to dating sites is that they’re all looking for love, and it’s quite likely that they’ve tried to find it in the wrong places before.  I hate to break it to you, guys, but indeed, honesty is the best policy.  There’s no point in lying your way into an online relationship, because women have a knack for finding loopholes in your story.  Seriously, you don’t lie and then expect to be trusted.  In any relationship, honesty would go a long way.

Think “honesty is the best policy” right from the start.

While some online dating tips recommend reinventing yourself each time you create a profile on a dating site, that’s a no-no if you want a relationship to work.  Nothing can be more stressful than having to remember whether it’s on this site that you’re a skydiver (or were you a poet?) or on the other.  Don’t say that you’re a dead ringer for Johnny Depp when the closest you’ve gotten to that was in Edward Scissorhands.  How would you feel if you were expecting a Paris Hilton look-alike on your first date, and you suddenly find yourself face-to-face with a female Perez Hilton?  Also, never say you’re quite “boyish” at 40 (your real age?) when you mean “thin-haired.”

Let your profile scream “relationship honesty.”

Most men make the mistake of wanting to appear cool and romantic in their profiles.  If it simply isn’t “you,” spare yourself the trouble of trying too hard to pull it off.  You’ll have a better chance at finding Ms. Right-for-you if your profile tells her exactly what kind of relationship you’re looking for.  When creating your profile, think about the things that you liked and disliked about your former relationships.  Be honest.  In designer stuff and men, what women hate the most are phonies.  Be specific about what you like in a potential girlfriend.  Don’t worry about limiting your matches–it’s quality over quantity, remember?  She’ll appreciate that you’re upfront about it and may even decide that you’re not a player.

Once you do find your perfect match, deactivate your online dating account right away.  You won’t need that any longer, unless you want Ms. Right-for-you to feel that she’s just Ms. Right-now.

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The boys say it’s easier to meet girls online.  You have their instructions down from joining the most popular Internet dating sites to whipping up a winning profile.  You’ve even attached a soft focus photo of yourself to go with it.  With the online dating population at a 60-40 ratio of women to men, you’re just about ready to have the time of your life.  The only thing you have to figure out is how to find the right girl.  From the throng of women, how do you tell which one is Ms. Right?  After all, it’s quality and not quantity that truly matters.  You can get lost trying to find the right girl, especially since you can’t be too sure if your online date is who she says she is in her profile.

Online dating icebreakers that double as background check

Getting the right answers comes from asking the right questions.  Ask her what she thinks about online dating for starters. Be on the lookout for answers that come out as cynical, then follow through with, “Men couldn’t be that bad, what makes you think that way?”  If you listen intently, she might share a bad experience with a former online date or an ex.  It will get the ball rolling.  You can then ask her opinion about the common blunders that men make both online and offline. That should tell you something about the kind of guys she likes.

As you warm up to each other, you can get more personal without being intrusive.  Remember that it’s not what you say, but how you say it.  Pop the question as if it just passed your mind, like “This sure is fun.  How long have you been doing this (dating online)?”  Ask her how different her online dating experience is from her past relationships, after which you may ask what made her call it quits with her ex.  If you do, watch out if she rattles on about how much pain he’s caused her.  It’s either she’s not over him yet or she’s got a negative outlook on guys.  Whatever it is, it can’t be good for you.

Online dating conversation as a two-way street

Don’t get too caught up in asking the right questions that she might feel like she’s talking to the Feds.  Show the real you, so she’d open up some more.

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There are more women than men signing up for online dating services, which means that there’s not much competition and that there’s more chances of finding your dream girl online.  Don’t be so full of yourself, though.  Women are cautious about online dating because there are just as many frauds on the web as in the real dating scene.  Your online dating experience shouldn’t be difficult or frustrating.  It’s just that sometimes, it’s not just the men who read “men’s guide” to dating. Women do so to see if you’re trying to pull a fast one.  So get rid of the cheesy pick-up lines, and read these online dating tips that work.

Men’s guide to understanding women

Don’t try too hard to impress women.  You’d be surprised to learn that respect and honesty go a long way.  Remember stuff from your last conversation.  There’s nothing more frustrating to a woman than having to answer the same questions over and over, unless the ones doing the asking are her friends.  If it were a man, it would mean that the guy wasn’t paying attention.  Don’t give her false ideas about what you do or which hot celebrity you look like.  Tell one lie, and she’ll realize that it doesn’t add up to your story.

Online dating tips that work before your first real date

Don’t be pushy. Be patient until she’s ready to divulge personal information.  She’s as wary as you are of possibly hooking up with a psycho.  Although it’s understandable that you’d want to see if she looks anything like her profile photo, don’t rush her into getting on the webcam.  She’d think that you’re superficial.  Do post full-body (but decent) pictures of yourself enjoying regular activities.  She’ll be comfortable doing the same, since you appear as real as possible.  However, steer clear of sexual innuendos.  Even if you’re both getting comfy with your conversations, don’t risk sounding like a pervert.

Make her feel safe about meeting you. Ask her where she’d be more comfortable meeting up and make it a lunch date.  Stick to what you remember from your online chats and let the conversation roll.  Be spontaneous, but don’t make your succeeding dates a spur-of-the-moment thing unless you want her to think it’s a booty call.

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If there’s one thing that you could thank the recession for, it’s boosting online dating with significant rise in memberships to dating sites.  Whether or not you’re one of those men who resort to dating online out of boredom, loneliness, or simply testing the waters, you’d be happy to learn that most match-making sites have a 60-40 female to male ratio.  So, hold your horses, knights!  The statistics won’t do you any good if you don’t know what women want online.  Although most people say that it’s way easier to hook up through the Internet than face-to-face, it doesn’t mean that you won’t need these online dating tips for guys.

What women want online and offline are sincere compliments, not flattery.

If all you’ve seen so far is her profile photo, compliment her on what highlights her features best.  Steer clear of cheesy lines that not only sound fake but would also make your date want to bolt.  True, women love detail-oriented and funny guys, but never say how much her teeth would match her beige bedroom walls perfectly.

Pace yourself accordingly.

If you’re just starting to get to know each other, keep conversations light and witty.  Although some online dating tips for men would advise that women like men who are in touch with their emotions, that’s not applicable at the beginning of an online relationship.  There’s nothing more alarming to a woman than a man who’s too emotionally charged.  Aside from appearing too good to be true, you could be tagged as desperate and obsessive.  You wouldn’t want to be tagged anything other than “could be The One,” especially since women do spill the gory details to anyone who cares to ask.  In the event that it doesn’t work between you and your prospect, you wouldn’t have to move to another dating site.

The online dating tips for guys, which actually work, can be summarized in one word.

As Aretha Franklin would tell you, “R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me!”  You don’t have to work too hard to impress women.  Don’t lie, use cuss words, or be too critical of other people, and your online relationship will go a long way.

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Being new to online dating may make you feel a little awkward at first. After all, an online relationship has the whole dating process backwards.  While those in regular relationships usually start out as acquaintances that may have bumped into each other once or twice before learning that they actually have more things in common (than just their circle of friends), online daters are total strangers who sometimes live at opposite poles.  Having good online dating chemistry even enables people to learn about each other’s most embarrassing moments long before they get to see what they look like.  With the growing interest in online dating, sharing pictures and exchanging greeting cards became popular date activities.

Sharing online photos is among the most popular date activities.

There are several ways to close the distance between you and your date.  One way is to share digital pictures through e-mail and image-hosting websites.  You may even share photos while you chat; chat servers usually support live file sharing.  Send photos from your travels and of yourself enjoying your favorite activities.  Allowing your date to see the side of you that he or she doesn’t get to see on webcam will help strengthen your bond.  When you decide to meet up later on, you can take pictures and create a scrapbook to commemorate your first real date.  Find sites that allow you to create slideshows and electronic scrapbooks for free.  If you’re still in the early stages of the online relationship though, don’t go overboard with the photo-sharing.  To protect yourself from risks, refrain from sending family photos or those with address-specific backgrounds.

Sending greeting cards improves online dating chemistry.

You don’t need a special occasion to send greeting cards. Online relationships practically run on communication, which is why it’s important to make your presence felt.  Surf the web for e-card sites.  You can even find e-cards that you may customize and send free of charge.  Choose from a variety of cards organized by holidays.  There are also all-occasion cards categorized into “funny, “inspirational,” and so on.  E-cards usually come with music and are animated.  Some sites have interactive e-cards where you can replace the character’s head with your date’s photo to personalize them.  Just don’t overdo it, unless you want to appear obsessed and scare your date away.

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Online dating requires more talking than regular dates do, because of limitations associated with long-distance relationships. If you’ve been dating online for a few months already, regular chats can be routine and boring. To add some zest into it, you need great online date ideas. Otherwise, what could have been a potentially good relationship may simply slip through your fingers. Some of the popular and fun date ideas are bidding at auctions and exchanging recipes.

Exchange recipes: cooking it up

Turn the heat up on online relationships by sharing recipes of your favorite dishes. You and your date don’t have to be culinary experts. Food is a safe but fun topic, because people love to eat even if they don’t cook. It’s a great way to get to know each other better, as you may learn whether or not your date is vegan, travels a lot, or has allergies. Look up recipes on the Internet and share these with each other. You may recreate the dishes by adding your signature ingredients to put a different twist on regular dishes. You can even wow your date by putting your food photography skills to practice and sending the pictures to him or her. If you’re not much of a cook, you can simply exchange the weirdest recipes you could find and laugh your hearts out. These are inexpensive ideas for online dates, as there are plenty of free recipes on the Web. Who knows? It may even get you so bonded that your date would want to have you cook meals together on a real date.

Bid at online auctions: getting first dibs

You can find just about everything on eBay these days. Aside from finding something interesting, browsing through the items can be a fun, learning experience for you and your date. To make your date feel that it isn’t just one of your inexpensive ideas—even if it is—and that you’ve given it a lot of thought, do some eBay surfing in advance and find rare items that remind you of your date, such as the Fashion Avenue Barbie Collection that she grew up on or the Star Wars item that he needs to complete his collection. In addition, find out how compatible your tastes are as you check out music memorabilia and books together. You may even surprise your date by outbidding him or her on an item and then giving it to him or her when you go out on an actual date.

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Online dating used to be just for fun, until you come across someone whom you think could be “the one.” What happens next? Being in an online dating relationship does not exempt you from the ups and downs that those in regular relationships go through. As in any other relationship, it takes a significant amount of time and effort to nurture online datingrelationships. In fact, the circumstances surrounding an online relationship make it even necessary for you to work twice as hard as other couples do. Let the following tips for online dating help you achieve a successful relationship.

1. Reality check

Before making that emotional investment, try to evaluate the status of your online dating relationship. There’s no point going through the rest of the steps unless you’re sure that this is the relationship you want to nurture and bring to another level. Does he or she pull a disappearing act online for unexplained periods of time? People with multiple online relationships usually do this, and you probably don’t want to be in too deep with someone like that.

2. Proper timing

Time is a key factor in successful online relationships. Spend too much time online, and you’d come across as lazy or obsessive. Spend too little time, and you’d appear inconsistent and uninterested. Set a regular schedule for your virtual date and make sure you stick to it. If something really important comes up, make sure you tell him or her that you can’t make it. No one likes to be stood up–especially someone who’s sitting down in front of a computer. In addition, a successful online relationship needs to have the right pace. Don’t rush him or her to meet up for real until he or she is ready. Don’t wait too long either.

3. A “real” feel

Successful online relationships aren’t restricted to what can be done online. Send him or her a copy of your favorite book, as this would have come up in your previous chats. Don’t send an e-book since online presence is already routine. Go old school and add a handwritten note or highlight insightful lines to give your gift more character.  If you live in different countries and he or she has culinary interests (or if the previous one seems too cheesy for you), send your date a recipe book of your native dishes.

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While online dating can be exciting for singles and may increase your chances of finding a partner, it also makes you more vulnerable to online dating hazards. You are likely to come across more frauds in the Internet than in face-to-face interactions, so make it a point to take necessary precautions to keep online dating safe.

Safeguard your equipment.

Before connecting to the Internet and signing up for dating services, one of the most basic online dating precautions you should take is to shield your computer from viruses that may cause permanent damage to your system. At the same time, block other parties from stealing personal information from you over the Internet. There are freeware, or software that you can download at no cost, available for home computer users. You may use the following to keep your computer risk-free:

Free firewall download: ZoneAlarm (www.zonelabs.com)
Free anti-virus download: AVG Anti-Virus (www.grisoft.com)

Look before you leap.

The best way to make online dating safe is to select your online dating service with great care. From among the online dating sites available, navigate through the pages and see which of these websites you’d like to belong to. Browse through testimonials, photos, and profiles. If you see lewd language and images on the site, it is unlikely to be a dating site that you would want. If you’re comfortable enough to inquire from people who have some online dating experience, they may be able to point you to the right direction.

The Internet is brimming with online dating services. Bookmark them on your computer so you can easily return to them and compare terms and conditions, privacy policies, and subscription rates, although there are several dating sites on the Internet that are free of charge. If you take these online dating precautions seriously, they could save you from a lot of anxiety, regrets, and maybe even heartache.

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